WHAT CAN YOU DO TO PROTECT YOURSELF FROM NEGATIVE THINKING
The negative thinking can really impede one’s ability to live a fulfilling life, when everything is wrong with the world and nothing is worth pursuing, so what’s the point in law really.
Even though a positive mindset is generally more preferable than a negative one, there’s also dark side to the whole positivity culture we see nowadays, that’s why I think it’s time to talk about positivity.
We all know those people that are always happy, shinning and utterly optimistic about everything, these kind of people equipped with clear cut, exclusively possible mindsets to approach life’s problems, no matter how big or small you’ll probably notice that when you talk to them about a specific situation that you’re dealing with, they’ll sprinkle you with sweet optimism, which is supposed to make your problem go away, In an instance, so your spouse dimples you, you’ll get over it, and you’ve just being cleared on and lied to so many times, that you can’t trust people anymore, stop being too negative, Now I don’t think that there are some thing inherently wrong with wishing another person happiness and freedom of suffering, on the contrary, so I suspect that statement like these come from a sincere place of love and also from blissful ignorance that when we look closer isn’t so blissful as it seems.
The problem however is that the phrases contain a certain degree of denial of an indisputable part or life suffering.
Bad positivity is the refusal to see the negative even when there’s an elephant in the room, while solely focusing on the positive and end up facing realty as it is, so it choose whether a fake it till you make it attitude, artificial smiles and brushing anything undesirable under the carpets.
The ancients Stoics wrote extensively about how our thoughts about a certain event influences our emotions and not the events itself, “men are disturbed bit by things but by their principles and notion which they form concerning things, death for instance is not terrible else it would have appeared to Socrates, but God terror consist in our notion of dark that is terrible from a stoic perspectives, positivity is a mindset.
We can look at a bright side of things in order to feel better about then but this doesn’t Halen overnight it takes a lot of practices.
When you’re diagnosed with a terminal illness for example, you probably won’t be able to shrug it off and he Happy about it, even though it might be a philosophical ideal, the reality is that the vast majority of people don’t work that way and most likely never will.
In general hijab beings experience deep grievances over loss and death that we simply cannot refuse to, so is the serial of something that is a healthy position to take,
The things that Epictetus speaks of cab be very well the emotions that are evokes by unfortunate events, we cab position ourselves to watch these emotions saying just be happy or stop being so negative, be positive, the tricky part of such a position is that a positive mind stare and the experience of happiness is, underscore preferable but by rejecting and disapproving of what it is, it brings grieve sadness, anger etc. And our current mind state will only get worst.
Mind states has to grow naturally, the only thing we can do is creating certain conditions in which we’re more likely to become happy, like the pursue of virtue instead, of stoicism and the ancient Path in Buddhism but we cannot force ourselves to be happy by saying just think happy thoughts, it just won’t work and what’s even worst are the good vibes only kind of people that have zero tolerance for anything that they perceive as negative, insisting that they should surround with happy shinny and upbeat people.
Well I’m not saying that they should surround themselves with utterly cynical or destructive souls but it’s kind of nature to expect that human beings are perpetually happy or happy on command.
That might be some exceptions but these are extremely rare cases, the world isn’t good vibes only it’s just vibes, good and bad relatively either good and bad means rejecting.
50% of the universe basically everyone even the most positive person you’ll meet has a dark side as the Swiss psychologist calls it, everyone has a shadow, but this positivity is a recipe of creating the dense shadow that harbours all the undesirable traits that you’re not supposed to have, because you must wear the mask of happiness all the time and all your sadness and Grier and after and other emotions that you can’t show because you’re forced to be positive and are kicked down into the darkness of the unconscious.
And are rottening and festering, creating s master that will come to consummate us, when you’re least expecting it.
So this negative is an attempt to force happiness by rejecting any form of undesirable aspects of certain events while true positivity is adopting a positive attitude towards thus events, while accepting the negative aspects at the same time, it’s middle way of being positive while leaving room for negative emotions as well and fully accepting that we’re sad growing and feel like crap instead of you’ll get over it, you can say I understand it’s a difficult situation but you’re coped in the first and you’be always coped and in certain that you’ll cope this time, if there’s something I can do for you please let me know, instead of just think happy thought we could say I understand you feel like crap but now there’s anything I can do for you to make you better let me know.
Sony replacing toxic positivity with true positivity we leave rook for people to feel what we feel, I mean how can we possibly hell people when we deny them. At the same time, people that enforce you to he happy and positive to supply stop craving and only what to associate with you when you radiate goof vibes, aren’t a good influence at all, they project their own unwillingness to face their shadows upon those sprouting forcing their answers on you that’s similar to their own and by doing so, they see themselves short on life because they deny themselves and others the complete spectrum of what it means to be human.